Three Valuable Lessons My Mother Taught Me

Author: Ali

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“I love my mom because…”

Those are the words that every child in my grade school remembers hearing a week or two before Mother’s Day. Those five words were the introductions to love letters to our mothers about why we loved them. Every child had to complete a rough draft before being handed the final, and pristine sheet of linen paper that would later be handed to our mothers on their special day.

There were contests, all of which I never won, that in a sense displayed a parent’s teaching skills and the lessons she taught her son or daughter. My paper always said the same thing, “...because she loves me,” or “…because she takes me places,” and so on. I got to thinking about how I would answer that question now. How would I finish my “I love my mom because…” statement at age twenty-three?

With Mother’s Day coming up, I decided to share the three most valuable lessons my mother taught me, and why I love her.

1) I love my mom because she taught me to be a strong and independent individual. Even from a young age, my mother stressed the importance of being self-reliant. I was told not to rely on anybody to do everything for me. In the end, it’s the decisions you make in life that dictate your future. You cannot spend your life comparing yourself or being jealous of others – that will get you nowhere fast. For me, it was all about being confident in myself, and who I was as an individual, that allowed me to become an independent person. I am comfortable with who I am, and don't need someone to do things for me or tell me what is right from wrong. I have a strong moral compass, and that is in part, due to my independence and strong-will.

2) I love my mom because she taught me that life isn’t fair. However many times I muttered this as a child didn’t go unnoticed by my mother. Her response was always the same: “You’re right, life isn’t fair.” I was taught to make the best of ill-fated situations, and learn from my mistakes. My mom also stood by the ideology of treating others just as you would like to be treated. In the end, life is fair as long as you make the best of it. You have to accept that life isn’t always going to work out for you. You might not get that job right out of college, you might have a bad breakup, you might lose a loved one. At the end of the day, life is what you make it – so make it a good one!

3) I love my mom because she taught me to never shy away from red lipstick. Since I was a little, I remember my mom always wearing red lipstick. In fact, I can’t recall a time when my mother wasn’t wearing red lipstick. Red lipstick is a bold color, and only bold women wear it. I think that’s a good reflection of my mom’s personality. When she helped me pick out my first tube of red lipstick, I felt like she was passing the torch to me. It was her way of saying, you’re bold, brave and beautiful.

There are many reasons why I love my mother, but it’s the lessons she’s taught me along the way that have really made me who I am today. No matter who you are, we all have learned lessons from our mothers. Share any valuable lessons that your mother has taught you in the comments below!